You’ve been in Germany Long If..

The definition of ‘Long’ here can be different from one person’s opinion to another. But, in my opinion, one is considered staying in a country long, when it has already been more than 3 years that he or she has been staying in a foreign country, because ‘ADAPTATION’ phase has normally been reached when one has been living, say in Germany, for more than 3 years, in my opinion. I know once again, the definition of ‘LONG’ here are varied. So, I hope it’s not something to argue about.

In my opinion, the first two years are  HONEYMOON phase where everything new is seen as a bright romantic light, and NEGOTIATION phase where one feels shock of certain cultures due to different systems, language barrier, frustrations and anger because all the new things that once were seen as romantic, do not seem romantic anymore. Entering the third year, the phases become ADJUSTMENT AND ADAPTATION: One develops routines based on the host culture, and is accustomed to the new culture. He or she knows what to expect, what should be done or not to be done in certain situations. Finaly, he or she becomes the master of the new culture without forgetting his or her own traits from the earlier culture (biculural stage).

Here are some of the things  I get accustomed to and I notice most Germans do:

  • You don’t jaywalk: obey the Ampelmann

There are few people here disobey the Ampelmann, but most of the people here,even I myself, who is not a German, but have been here for nearly 5 years always obey the Grün ampelmann. The Germans do not jaywalk even if the streets are totally empty. When asked why not crossing the streets when they are empty, the answers are logical ‘The Ampelmann says so’, and’ What if all of a sudden, a super fast car passing by, and you got hit? who’s to blame? the driver? NOOO, you, you are to blame for disobeying the ampelmann, thus insurance will not cover your damage.

Image : Berlin Ampelmannampelmann

  • You are used to garbage separation system

Discussing about garbage separation system may need one whole separate blog, because it is not as easy as you might think it is. In our household, we have 5 separate small containers for 5 different waste: plastic, paper, bio, cardboard boxes, other than these 4. Of course we need a separate container to trash batteries, but like I said, I will need one special blog only to discuss about garbage separation systems in Germany. When one is long enough in Germany, s(he) will get used to these containers, and be automatically go into the correct container to trash this. You will feel guilty if you are mixing them up.

Image : EU praises German recycling measures0,,6650665_4,00

  • You always make sure you bring your shopping bags whenever you go.

Unless you do not mind giving away your small coins for PLASTIC shopping bags sold by the supermarkets! You will feel uneasy when you know you notice your shopping bags are not in your bag.

  • When buying products, you pay attention to BIO or things with MSC on them

MSC stands for Marine Stewardship Council, certified sustananle seafood. It’s a label that is sometimes stuck in seafood packaging.By paying close attention to the type of seafood you eat, you can help WWF to revive our ocean and sustain it for generations to come.no49

Image : The Marine Stewardship Council (MSC) has reached an important milestone with the launch of the 20,000th MSC labelled product.

We are not BIO freak! but for some products, we consider going BIO! Many Germans also pay attention to BIO products. It  goes without saying that the products are expensive, but when they are BIO then we can understand why the prices are high. In many kindergarten here, they often say that the food they cook for the kids are from BIO Image : BIO

  • You say ‘Ach so’, ‘Doch’, and ‘egal’, and ‘genau’automatically even if you are speaking in your native language.

This happens to me! Even when I am back to Indonesia to visit my Indonesian family, I mix my language with these words without my noticing it. These words have stuck in my brain replacing the English words that have the same meaning. Read here my blog about 6 Common Words


  • You love Sonntagsruhe

How does it feel not going shopping on SUNDAY? How about if you forget some important stuff that you need on MONDAY MORNING? Well, ‘selber schuld’ or blame yourself for forgetting buying it on SATURDAY or days before.Oh yes, Germans always plan ahead! although some are spontaneous. Sonntagsruhe is the most special time in Germany, SUNDAY with no hassle with any kind of shopping. The first weeks I stayed here, I was not used to it, and I found it strange! BUT, after a few weeks, let alone now that I have been here almost 5 years (next June will mark my 5th year living here), I find this concept GREAT! I can be waking up rather late than usual, I don’t have to think about groceries and other kind of shoppings, I can spend the whole time doing what I basically like with my family! OH yes, SUNDAY is definitely A FAMILY DAY, A LAZY DAY (even a mom has a privilege to be lazy!) zitat-ich-kenne-ein-land-wo-die-automaten-sonntagsruhe-haben-und-unter-der-woche-nicht-funktionieren-karl-kraus-186771

  • You pay attention to Ruhezeits, Pause

Most restaurants here have Ruhezeits or the time when they don’t run the business. We can’t simply go to the restaurants and hope that they are open. It does not work that way! The good thing is this information is available on the websites of the restaurants. So what comes in mind when we decide to go to the restaurants is the time: when they open, when they have break before opening again at a specific time.

  • You automatically check the schedule of buses, trains even if you travel within the city.

We rely on public transportations so much that we can’t simply ignore  these public transportation schedules. Even if it’s only for a simple case, like going from within a city. Everything is available online, however if you don’t rely on the internet to check this, you can always find the time table on the, say, bus stops you  have to go. The public transportations here are mostly on time. The buses, and trains come only in certain time, like every 30 minutes, every one hour, and only go not later than 11 PM, for example. So, of course, you don’t want to miss your every-one-hour bus then you have to wait in a cold winter  time for the next one hour to get to your bus.

  • When you have no idea what drinks you want to order, you always come up with ‘Apfelschorle’

 Apfelsaftschorle, is a popular soft drink in Germany. It consists of carbonated mineral water and apple juice. Every restaurant here has this!

  • You slowly pay attention to football matches.

Although you are not a big fan of football, you know your surroundings are talking about the current match, and slowly begin to watch the matches by and by. In Germany, there are many local football clubs too, and these clubs compete each other in certain season. Before living here, I had no idea what Borrusia Dortmund (BVB)was, then on my 3rd year of living here,  I started to feel the euphoria whenever BVB wins. Well, some people hate football, but not with MOST GERMANS, they love this sport either doing it actively, or watching it passively, no wonder the German football team is one of the toughest football teams to beat.

  • When you walk, you always pay attention to the ‘Fahrradweg’

When I first came here, I was often reminded by my husband to pay attention to the bike lane. Some bike lanes are on the same path as the pedestrians. Only that do the bike lanes have different color from the pedestrians’ footpath.

  • DO not open windows when the weather is hot, Luftzug

It is recommended to open your windows for some air exchange, however, in the sommer where the temperature can reach 36 C, you only need to set a minute for some air exchange to prevent hot air filling inside the house.

  • You wait on the left side or right of the Ubahn waiting for the people inside coming out first.

Let them go out completely, then we can come in! Instead of rushing yourself in order to get a seat on the train, you will wait people getting out of the train patiently. Make some space for them to pass through!

  • Abendbrot becomes normal

Lunches in Germany are warm, but dinner is not necessarily warm: some sort of bread with slices of cold meat (Aufschnitt), or canned fish will do. We call this as Abendbrot. Abendbrot can be elaborative as well.tumblr_nnaxzxUy401sivccmo1_1280.jpg

  • You count on weather forecast (before deciding something).

‘How’s the weather today?’, ‘Will it be raining this weekend?’. Oh yes, people in Germany  check the weather forecast nearly every day. It helps us pick our proper clothes, like there is a saying in Germany, which is translated as ‘There is not such thing as bad weather, only improper clothes.’. Back in Indonesia where I think the weather is not really changeable, I never really cared of weather forecast. Since I  moved here, I get used to checking weather forecasts, sometimes even until the next few days.

  •  You start to curse with ‘scheisse’

Even if you speak English well, your remember your other native language, what comes out of your mouth when you swear is ‘Scheiße’ (excuse my language)

  •  You are waiting for the Xmas Market

Germany is known for its Chrismas markets. Thousands of people outside Germany are willing to travel to Germany during Christmas time to visit different kinds Christmas markets in many cities. Having lived in Germany for almost 5 years (Next June will mark my fifth year living in Germany.), and attended Chrismas market or we call it Weinachsmarkt already 6 times (the first on was when I did a month visit to Germany), I am always excited when it comes to winter time, December. Even though, Christmas Markets here are nothing new from time to time, but still attending to one or some of them once a year is something I am looking forward to.DSC00184


  •  You’ve been wondering whether you have seen the last episode of Tatort

Tatort is a German police jargon meaning the scence of crime.The series are often interesting I think, even though I still find the hard time catching up what they are saying. If we decide to watch it, we usually watch it online a day or so before, and for that the subtitles help me understand the whole story better.ARD-Tatort.jpg

  •  Termin termin termin or appointment

Even if you arrange some playdates with your close friends, you can’t simply come and knock the door or ring the bells saying ‘Hey! surprise!! here we are coming to see you!’THAT is not a good way to surprise the Germans. So make appointment beforehand!

  •  You are  used to insurances

There are too many insurances here, sometimes I am surprised that it seems every little thing or case is insured if you decide to take. I am having headaches sometimes that every person I meet here talk about different kind of insurances, and I end up asking rhetorically ‘ Oh, you have that kind of insurance?’

When I said ‘Used to insurance’ I only mean that you often think whether a certain thing is covered by the insurance or not. Understanding completely different kinds of insurance is something else. germany-health-insurance

  •  You consider buying Jack Wolfskin

Jack Wolfskin is a major German producer of outdoor wear and equipment headquartered in Idstein.  The jackets for example, look simple yet strong ( Germans love simplicity! I guess). I personally am not brand minded, so this one does not apply to me. I wrote here based on my observations here that many people here seem to love this brand.logo_jack_wolfskin

  •  People have slippers for the guests or they bring their own slippers (Hausschuhe)

Slippers and Germans are inseparable. One even wears these during summer inside the house. You will never forget to bring slippers even if you stay in hotels, even if they are provided by the hotels, you know just in case! Slippers slippers at home!

  • You are on time

Actually, this does not shock me that much. I am a very punctual person anyway. But for those who were not, then moved to Germany, I think you would change drastically, because Germans are mostly on time.


  • You watch Dinner for One on New year’s Eve

Dinner for One, also known as The 90th Birthday (German: Der 90. Geburtstag), is a two-hander comedy sketch written by British author Lauri Wylie for the theatre. German television station Norddeutscher Rundfunk (NDR) recorded a performance of the piece in 1963, in its original English language, with a short introduction in German. This comedy sketch went on to become the most frequently repeated TV programme ever.One of the TV shows you are waiting to see when New Year is around the corner, and is only shown on  New Year’S Eve.

There will be more other to follow, but I do not want to share all at a time! So, are you becoming  more German? If you ask me, I am still an Indoonesian, who adjusts and adapts, but not in a total conversion. I will adapt what I think appropriate to me, and will just enough to know what I think don’t suit to my personal belief.

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3 responses to “You’ve been in Germany Long If..

  1. Kalau di tanah air diterapkan memisahkan sampah, mungkin bbrp bulan pertama aja di jalankan masyarakat, setelahnya “masa bodoh” mau cari gampangnya ya disatukan aja hihi 😀 .

    Bio produk lebih mahal ah Lu. Pas diskonan aja aku beli haha.

    Sonntagsruhe bikin orang2 kalap belanja, apalagi klo tgl merahnya nyambung sabtu minggu atau minggu dan senin, org2 bakalan belanja buanyak bangett kata suamiku seakan2 supermarketnya tutup setahun haha 😆 klo libur panjang gitu biasanya kita belanja 1-2 hari lebih awal spy ga strees ngantri di kasir.

    • Masalah sampah di Indonesia mungkin udah susah ya buat ngerubah mindset dan kebiasaan masyarakat, bener masa bodoh itu yang gak bisa ilang di masyarakat kita. Hehe bener BIO mahal, aku kalau strawberry sukanya BIO, hehe. Haha kalu pas verkaufssontag tuh duuuh rameee pol, aku aja gak update kapan verkaufssontag. Mungkin orang2 belanja banyak saking paniknya takut gak bisa makan hehem arau saking senengnya karena libur panjang, jadi biar gak mikir makanan ya setok yang banyak.

  2. Pingback: You’ve Been in Germany Too Long If…(Part 2) | The Pearl of Java·

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