Seeking Something Behind the Button

I know some people are not born talkative. They are picky when it comes to saying things. I should have quoted “talkative”. It has become common to connect to people through social media such as the internet that offers too many social networking sites. Those social networking connect friends, family, relatives, acquaintances, you name it. The point of connecting among the people one knows is actually easy: SIMPLY because he or she knows the people. IMHO, It would be considered rude when one rejects the invitation to connect whereas  they quite know each other or at least they have ever talked at least once in a real life or real “life” ( read: getting to know them from the internet)

I am trying to correlate between the purpose of connecting people on those social networking and being talkative or “talkative”. Some people have claimed to get more confidence when it comes to stating opinions in those sites, which mostly enable us to share things and reply on some commentators’ comments. They who claim to be shy people in a real life, and are not used to talking too much in public, all of a sudden they have turned to be good “conversationalists”.  I get the feelings there would be quite many words in quotations in my babbling today. I know words in quotations are not easily understood sometimes. “Think outside the box” as some people say. Having said the phrase, I do not mean to say I am used to such thinking, sometimes I do not want to think that hard. Life is already too complicated to think seriously all the time.

Speaking of social networking, I have some objections to share. The objections to the existence of a seem-to-be- trifling button : the LIKE button.This button seems to be mushrooming here and there. Every time I read articles, this LIKE button seems never want to go away, and also the “SHARE” one. But let’s eliminate the SHARE button, and focus on the L.I.K.E button, shall we?. This button comes in handy sometimes, BUT in some cases, I think this button is indeed a disaster. A “killer” in disguise!

Having joined a site since the site was still quite, and had not gained its fans that seem to be all around the globe, I have noticed the changing of behavior in some people, and the behavior has something to do with Linguistic skill. I am not excluding myself you know, so yes I am all fit in too.

Case 1:

A posts something. Then A bears comments, of course from A’s contacts. And since there is THAT button, it goes without saying some of them “showed” their thumbs as a THUMB image represents the button. Simply click the button ( even though they  don’t really click it with their thumbs.) Thus another “verb” / “noun” ( I do not know whether the words I am going to tell you soon are already listed on the English dictionary as the new words as a part of part of speech.) like :to thumb “verb” ( meaning to click on a thumb image) and thumb-ers (plural nouns) ( refer to those who have clicked on the button LIKE). Those who clicked the LIKE, not necessarily make some comments; they are silent visitors I’d say.

The possible reasons behind the course of actions are as follows ( even though I have not made any research yet, now that I said it, it would be awesome to make a research on this one of these days. Someday maybe if I am not lazy!!)

  1. People are too lazy to type.
  2. People are too busy to make some comments. So the BUTTON will do; it’s like telling to A: I am here, but sorry I am too busy (reasons off the record)
  3. People do not know what to say. Without wanting to be called as rude, they click the BUTTON showing their care.(other reasons off the record. ) And they presume ” I think it is not necessarily to say something, right?” once again the BUTTON will do.
  4. People do not feel close to A, thus they are careful with their words or they do not feel the strong bound of friendship, and it limits the conversation. Once again the BUTTON will do.
  5. People are afraid of talking something incoherent of a story
  6. A says ” Thanks to all the thumb-ers” but perhaps wonders what those Thumbers have in mind.

Case B

B shares something. It begins with this line ;

” I am so sad that I have missed the bus, and my boss fired me because it was my third time of being late…..”

Sad, isn’t it? …

then goes on with this sentence ( on the same post) :

But I was struck by luck; I found a new job the next day.”

B bears comments, and some of them once again “THE BUTTON ” will do. B gets upset because of those thumbers who came without saying anything. B wonders ” Do you LIKE the fact I was fired?” or “Do you LIKE the fact I got a new job?”.

— End of story! B wonders and wonders all day long!

This seem-to-be-trifling button is actually NOT THAT T.R.I.F.L.I.N.G! you see, the LIKE button does not build any good relationship with people, IMHO.

  1. What kind of conversation can be built with the BUTTON that may fail to convey the real message(s). Like in case B; it’s all so ambiguous.
  2. The L.I.K.E button may cause H.A.T.R.E.D or D.I.S.L.I.K.E! especially if there are no further explanations in case of B ( you know some people are sensitive.)
  3. The THUMB button ( a.k.a LIKE) eliminates the linguistic skill each of us has. It does not trigger us to think and share opinions. We are not trained to think critically. We are not trained to have a healthy debate through words that are obviously the language of mankind.
  4. The LIKE button is like non-verbal language in the online life ( read: the internet)
  5. THAT simple button represents too many meanings sometimes. A confirmation asking “Why do you give your thumbs?” would sound silly. The obvious answer would be “That’s because I like it.” and no further discussion. And actually a confirmation of such question is rarely made. Perhaps yes, but often uttered in jest.
  6. THAT button has worse effect that one can ever imagine.

I personally do not like it so much that I try to eliminate the habit of clicking the BUTTON ( using my index finger, instead of my THUMBS). However, I simply can not ignore this button, I do use this once in a while, and am still not comfy. It is because  I am ignorant to some news, and it makes me”sad” when I can’t state my opinions just because I do not know what A or B is talking about.Perhaps I look like I am taking this seriously whereas I said earlier :

“Life is already too complicated to think seriously all the time.”

The fact is that I have noticed almost 98% percent of posters seldom talk seriously, even if they do; they talk about knowledge that one is nothing to lose to learn. I am trying to eliminate this button myself, and pretend it does not even exist to boost my critical thinking to some topics my contacts post. I am lazy sometimes, and have got to do something with that. Like in Arabic says “Iqra iqra iqra” means read read and read.

The button LIKE perhaps should be altered by more communicative BUTTONS. Well, buttons will do. Hmm if only they who own the site provide more than just one BUTTON. Another question arises: Then people are busy choosing and clicking one out of some buttons they like.

I am wondering whether this BUTTON degrades us as human being who are gifted by a most powerful tool to communicate that is the VERBAL language.

And I am just afraid, soon people are like robots with soul.

Just my two cents!

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5 responses to “Seeking Something Behind the Button

  1. I love your reflections in the article!! We indeed are dominated by this LIKE buttons. I’ve seen many times articles about sadness and suffering but the ‘button people’ don’t even take the time to read and think they know enough by reading the first two lines of the article. I was angry to see that some clicked the ‘LIKE’ button in this case. Many of us are too lazy indeed to write a well meant comment. The overkill of social media in which we are active contribute a bit to this. Many need to visit hundreds of contacts daily and the button is the easy solution for this. But this button works like an offense to me for those who never write comments.
    Great article Lulu! Have a great weekend! Sorry I pushed you ‘Like button’ above 🙂

  2. Two cents? I think it is a bag full of coins! Personally, on Facebook, I never mind if people click on Like and leave no comment. Most of my status updates don’t even require a comment…, but it’s nice to see that people have read it and show that by clicking on Like. I do think (like case B) that it is weird to click on Like if you put something sad in your status update. Do they like the fact that something sad happened to you? That, to me, is about nr. 1 (lazy) or 4 (not knowing each other well enough), but on those status updates I think it is better NOT to react than to click on Like… but that’s just my 2 cents…

  3. Oh, one more cent… 😉 , sometimes I leave a comment for A and A responds and I respond and A responds and finally I don’t know any more response or feel like closure, so the last comment by A I will click on Like. For me that means, “I’ve read your last response, I liked it”, so people at least know you haven’t gone on your way not interested any more in the discussion. 🙂

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